Couples Therapy

You might be looking for help in making a major decision in your couple like moving home or having a baby. You may be needing tips for how to understand your children and talk about some parenting skills. Or simply to bring back vitality into your relationship. Couples Counselling can support you in making changes together. Change requires more than communication, it is the developmental growth in each partner that needs to be supported and nurtured as well as the growth of the ‘couple’ which needs empathy.

If you feel stuck and have stopped having fun, showing affection and have lost the spark it may be the right time to invest in getting your ‘couple back’. The most important key in your relationship is Security. In order for you to repair what has gone wrong we will explore firstly how safe each of you feel in the relationship. How much you can trust in the other to be there and do what they say they will do for example.

Trust is extremely important in relationships and when this is broken then it can feel impossible to trust again. When trust is broken we stop opening up and we stop challenging ourselves in some ways. If you are a deep-sea diver, mountain climber, skydiver or fireman working with a partner whose life depends on you and vice versa. If you don’t trust them 100% the joy and reason for your endeavour together will be seriously limited and you won’t do the best you can do together. Trust is being able to be vulnerable, and vulnerability is a key to better relationships.

My own relationship experiences and what I have learnt from ‘Couples Trainings’ has given me a gentle confidence in being able to help your Couple if what you are looking for is to repair. To learn how to appreciate and understand your partner and to move from ‘I’ need to ‘we’ need.

Couples Therapy

The key question in love, is not, ‘How many orgasms can I have with you ?’ It is, ‘A.R.E. you there for me ?’ where A.R.E. stands for ‘emotionally Accessible, Responsive and Engaged.’

Dr. Sue Johnson

Does the sound of being the best and most alive version of yourself appeal to you in terms of your couple relationship?

Are you over the ‘honeymoon’ period of your marriage and feeling something is missing, wanting so bad for the spark to come back again?

Are you just unhappy with your couple and at a loss of how and what to do to get it back?

If there is something wrong in your couple you are more than likely feeling angry toward him/her and this anger is stopping you from connecting with the heartfelt, softer feelings that were there when you first met.

Each relationship is its own and unique universe and as such needs to have its own boundaries and protection from outside influences and the world.

Getting help

Getting help before its too late and you decide to split is very beneficial to a marriage or partnership, don’t wait too long because perhaps you can save what is yours and not give up on it!

Too many people give up on each other for reasons that don’t really make sense to them but the books say it, the media says it and all the pressure to be a hero, to be a new woman cause many people to become strong versions of themselves without their softer heartfelt feelings, without their authentic loving heart that understands the other and knows how to give and receive.

Of course there are times when the relationship is unhealthy and needs to end for the best for both partners and perhaps this is difficult to

When there is mis-attunement in the couple then we need to re-tune the heart of the relationship”

How do the sessions work?

The way I work with your couple is to see you both together initially for the first session for 90mins and thereafter each session will be for 50mins. Your Relationship is what we will be working with. It might be that a couple of sessions suffices and it may be that longer time is needed. At your first appointment I will be able to give you an idea of the time scale needed to put love back in balance!

How much are the Couples Therapy sessions?

£50 per session