When there is complex trauma in our bodies, it can feel like our hearts are broken. I want to remind you that I know there is hope, and hope is a very beautiful thing! The most important message in healing from trauma for me, and I want to share with you, is to go slowly…
As children, we learn ways to survive that are not always in harmony with or conducive to learning how to live life, be happy and enjoy our relationships. These things we learn from a young age become embedded in our cells. Changing these deeply held beliefs changes one’s life. It can take time to do…
Whatever happened to people who love because they love? Who knows how to love without destroying someone, without their selfish ego needing to be adored? Why do we women allow this to happen? “Because our relational needs, human needs were not met, have not been met, and we are vulnerable, we do not see the…
Ego States are a fundamental theory of TA. They explain the complex voices and feelings we all hear and act out. Today I am sharing ideas on the Adult ego state and how we can strengthen and grow this because it is the reality of the moment, and it is easy to be out…
In a previous blog, I wrote about the Drama triangle, and in order to come off the drama triangle (read it here), it helps if we have good solid boundaries. Nevertheless, what are they, and how do they work? Personal boundaries These are related to the degree to which it is okay for others…
Do you experience a lack of motivation? Have Feelings of being depressed, not enjoying many activities and not having or expressing strong feelings? Are you very independent with few close friends? This can result from Adverse Childhood experiences (ACEs), which are experiences and events that you had as a child experienced as really distressing…
The Drama Triangle developed by Dr Stephen Karpman in 1968 helps us see where we get stuck in relationships, be they at work, intimately or in any situation. It’s called the drama triangle because it explains how we play games when we are not living authentically and trusting ourselves! You might find that you often…
During this lockdown Doctors have been prescribing antidepressants too readily as the BBC last week reported saying that the number of people accessing talking therapy has fallen. Here in Wales, it has fallen considerably. At the same the government in Norway are giving more people power over their lives by being open to medication –…
Anxiety takes us out of ourselves, it takes out of our ability to engage with others. It takes us away from the warmth and safeness of connection with others, and it can show in a myriad of ways. How it affects us Anxiety can affect your mental health, your emotional well-being, your physical body, your…
